JOY AND LEW HOMILY

I promised one of my grandsons that I would send him this Bernie Siegel quotation so that he would know more about his grandfather who died one month he was born.

From Bernie Siegel, MD in Peace, Love and Healing:

I believe that in our earthly lives we exist as physical manifestations of the Loving, Intelligent Energy that we call God. 

Self-love is an acknowledgement of the spark of the Divine that is in each of us, no matter what our imperfections, and out of self-love comes the ability to reach out and Love others.

Your Grandfather Lew adopted this definition of God in the last years of his life because it embraces his broad and embracing faith that did not exclude others.

Once when he was officiating at a funeral at St David’s for an Episcopal woman. Her husband was well-known and Jewish. When Lew issued the invitation to come forward for bread and wine, he was intentionally and broadly inclusive. The huge chapel was packed including with this man’s Jewish friends; most of them came forward to receive the bread and wine. 

This loving inclusiveness was the essence of Lew Mills’ theology: Jesus, who was Jewish, came to share that love with all people without exception. God is a loving God whose loving, intelligent Energy embraces each of us right now just as we are.

Lew was not perfect by any stretch of the imagination; he knew his imperfections; he did not love perfectly either. However, he also knew that he and all people thrive when they are loved; therefore, God has to be a loving, not a punishing, God. And he was determined to share that love as far and wide as he could.

One morning after the 8 am service in St David’s Old Church, he hugged “a little old blue-haired lady” as he would describe her generation. (Now I am one of them although my gray hair is not tinted with blue rinse. And as I always told Lew. I am a woman, not a lady.) The next elderly woman in line asked, “How do I get one of those?” He immediately embraced her with his unique and encompassing bear hug. In her instructions for her funeral, she requested that Lew officiate.

At the end of his life Lew realized that when he was preaching about this Loving Intelligent Energy “we sometimes call God,” he was most authentic. Becoming more of who he was created to be was his goal in life. He taught me much about becoming more authentic as he Loved me with a capital L, with all my imperfections, so that I can reach out and Love others. 

You are welcome to share this “Joy and Lew homily” as you care to, with love and blessings, Grandmother Joy.

HIDDEN THINGS

I will show you hidden things, hidden things you cannot see.

Isaiah 48:6

Vocatus atque non vocatus deus aderitBidden or unbidden God is here.

On plaque above door of Carl Jung’s home

January 27, 2020

I will show you hidden things, the words of the chant I meditated to this morning. The exquisite, ethereal woman’s voice gently evoked my mother’s presence. Forty-five years ago today, as she was dying my mother wordlessly showed me hidden things I did not know. Even with her blood steadily flowing from tubes, she communicated to me with her peace-at-the-end smile: 

I am fine. This is what I want. This is my death. Do not take it away from me with any thoughts of what might have been. Live your life.

My priest-husband arrived, then my younger brother, joining my older brother, my father and me. Touching her lightly, my father recited the 23rd Psalm and the Lord’s Prayer, his eyes focused on her face. My husband put a tiny bit of bread dipped in wine on her tongue.

When we all stepped out of the room, she dies in her chosen way.

That evening at my parents’ house, I left the men talking and went into the living room. Knowing and not knowing I was seeking my mother, I was drawn to the small black lacquered dresser with Japanese designs on the four drawers. Nothing to inspire me in the first three. In the bottom drawer I found what I did not know I was seeking; I pulled out a thin sheaf of paper with my mother’s handwriting on the top sheet. 

Dear Sara, Suzie, and Corey, 

Rah Rah, and I have bought our Christmas tree….the draft of a letter my mother had written in 1970 when I called my infant son Corey. At the witching hour one night close to Christmas, she wanted to give my children my fairies through her intense love of small things, hidden things people often do not see: 

Look, Look. This sweet, beautiful strawberry waiting for you to press it to your lips and to smell the fragrance and to taste its nectar. The very words we use to describe them are fairy words, words like ‘nectar’ this is like no other red or berry in the world.

 But she did not stop with the sweetness: 

Call it magic, call it a miracle, it’s there waiting, “The Inner Light” as the Friends call it, or the presence of God through the Baby Jesus…. I know because there were years when I couldn’t see the magic and the fairy voice was still…. I finally stopped trying to solve my own problem and said, “Our Father in Heaven, I don’t know the answer but I am willing to listen.” And the first book I saw gave me the answer in its pages that I had seen many times but only with my eyes. This time it was with my heart and I knew what God was telling me. 

I’m telling you this because each of us has an Inner Voice that speaks to us. I hope I have given you the magic key–you, even as I, may mislay it for a time– but it’s there and when we use it, everything we see or touch has meaning. 

Then thirteen years later, two days after my ordination to the priesthood, I said to myself, “I wish my mother knew I have been ordained.” As though directed, I went into the study, opened the door to the small closet where I kept long ago letters. From the top of the pile, I picked out the finished Christmas letter she had actually sent to my children. Hidden things, once again appearing, unbidden, are here.

 

Inaugural Women’s Assembly PWR 2015: part 1

This Inaugural Assembly was borne of women speaking up often and persistently after the 2009 PWR in Melbourne where women realized how few women were plenary speakers and workshop leaders. The Inaugural Women’s Assembly gathered 3000 women plus interested men from 9 to 5 before the opening ceremony of the Parliament at 6:30 that evening. The Assembly was described as providing “an important opportunity for women to address and discuss two areas of vital interest: the responsibility of the world’s religions to affirm women’s dignity and human rights, and religious and spiritual inspiration for women’s empowerment.”

Perhaps a hundred of SHEROES drummed us into the Inaugural Assembly, moving through the crowd and ending up on the stage. Self-described: A SHERO is an ordinary Woman that finds the STRENGTH to Endure and Preserve in SPITE of Overwhelming Obstacles. A Role Model to those around HER. With their rhythmic heart beat drumming, they invited us into a women-energized space.

Throughout the morning plenary, we heard from diverse women from around the world, each from a different faith expression. Each woman spoke from her heart for five minutes, sharing the microphone equally, a hallmark of each of the PWR’s plenaries. What I report here is a mere shadow of what was spoken; I took incomplete notes, often lost in what I was hearing. I encourage you to Google: PWR Inaugural Women’s Assembly or Women’s Initiative or Focus on Women to explore the sites that interest you. Here I will paraphrase the points I jotted down.

An Indigenous Grandmother with the Intercontinental Indigenous Peoples Delegation: We are all indigenous to the earth. What will you say when you are asked by the next generations: what did you do to help save the earth, air water?

Ilyasha Shabazz, Malcom X’s daughter: This is a time for building bridges, a growing up time. Children need to understand purpose and power.

Mallika Chopra: State your intention and believe it will happen.

Diana Butler Bass: Women can be spiritual revolutionaries. Rules keep us from being fully human. Look it up for ourselves to encounter God for ourselves. See more beautiful ways.

Maori Grandmother, Dr Rangimarie Turuki Ankirangi Rose Pere: We are the sowers of the sacred seed of knowledge and peacekeepers. Live the Four Directions. The Divine Source is unconditional Love. You are me and I am you. I come in from the future. Separation and division are our worst enemies.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:I feel the heartfulness that fills this room. We can become who we want to be by becoming one with ourselves on a deeper level within. We are the displaced within religious communities. Hillary Clinton said 20 years ago at the Fourth World’s Conference on Women that “Women’s rights are human rights and human rights are women’s rights.” Circles, like campfires, offer the possibility that each person is equidistant from the others and offer a spiritual center and a place to tell your story. The spirituality unites; religions divide.

Ruth Messinger: 70% of the extremely poor are women; one in four has been or will be abused; fourteen million women are force into early marriages. One in three women are assaulted. These assaults are soul damaging and deadly. We have a broken moral compass. In 1948 the UN proclaimed Women’s Rights. How we treat women is the way we treat the earth. When we uplift women, children thrive.
To be continued

A General Reflection on my Parliament of the World’s Religions (PWR) Experience

The PWR attracted over 9600 people and offered more than 300 workshops; several sacred spaces; exhibitions; all day small stage performances with music and dance from many cultures; open space activities in addition to the all-encompassing plenaries focusing on the six major concerns of this PWR. I want to emphasize that by the nature of the enormous diversity of choices, my experience was narrow and limited. I constantly had to make choices about what workshops to attend. I focused mostly on The Women’s Initiative which wove workshops throughout the five days. I discovered that I could not sustain a 12-14 hour day of active participation and spent a couple hours each day resting and absorbing what I had seen and heard. In addition, I attended only four out of the five days, departing the morning of the fifth day in order to be able to attend my writing seminar in Washington, D.C. two days later.

For a fuller understanding of the PWR I encourage you to go to the website: ParliamentOfReligions.org/watch and follow whatever interests you.The videos capture some of the delightful flavor of walking through the Salt Palace feeling the sense of co-operation and peace among the participants. It is humbling to me to realize how small a slice of the Parliament I actually experienced as well as how marvelous it was to participate in this historic gathering. My hope is that these posts and the website might spark your interest and you become involved in Interfaith Now in a way that mirrors your interest.

My next post(s) will include my reflections on the Women’s Assembly and the Focus on Women, followed with a post on my experience with the Indigenous presence at the Parliament. Then I will return to my posts on Biblical Stories of Women.

The Parliament of the World’s Religions (PWR) 2015: Reclaiming the Heart of Our Humanity – Working Together for a World of Compassion, Peace, Justice and Sustainability

Langar: “Regardless of who you are, where you come from, what your background is, you’re welcome into this space.” This faith statement of the Sikh religion was lived out at the sixth Parliament of the World’s Religions: The Global Interfaith Movement, in Salt Lake City for five days in mid-October. Langar: the radical hospitality of the Sikh faith fed a full meal to up to 6000 people a day. At no cost, with no “free will offering” buckets, with great dignity and humble kindness.

As we entered the huge hall, each of us was greeted by women dressed in the traditional Sikh white pants and long tunic. Asked to remove our shoes, we placed them on a numbered bookcase, memorizing the number for retrieval later. Then I joined one of two long lines to wait my turn. The first day, I assumed the wait would be long and my friend and I chose not to wait. The second day, I realized this was a mistake: the lines moved swiftly as people finished their meals and left. No one hurried us–there was enough time and food for every one.

Before we were seated cross-legged in long rows on the thinly carpeted floor, if our heads were not already covered, we were given a white bandanna to cover our heads in order to honor our partaking of this meal which had already been blessed. Most servers wore either a white turban or white head covering. There was a long line of tables with chairs for those who needed to sit in order to partake of the meal. As I sat down, I took in our diversity which included people from up to 50 faith expressions and subsets, including Muslims, Christians, Jews, Sikhs, Jains, Zoroastrians, Baha’is, Yorubas, Quakers, Native Americans, Pagans, Buddhists, Hindus and Wicca. Sitting together on the floor and breaking bread together, we were “all equal before God,”no matter what our faith background was, as one Sikh explained the purpose of Langar.

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GUESTS WITH HEAD COVERS BEING SERVED AT LANGAR BY SIKH HOSTS

First, we were given a rectangular Styrofoam plate with dividers, napkins, a spoon and a plastic glass. The servers were all ages, from older men and women in traditional garb and turban-covered heads to youngsters eager to serve us as their elders were. They were joined by volunteers. Adults carried large stainless steel buckets full of a plentiful variety of food: a vegetable curry, raita, rice and salad. The children served us nan bread, made sure we had enough water or mango lassi to drink, and served the fruit as the meal ended. Second servings were graciously offered. Then we were guided to the dessert area!! where we were also given a choice of tea to savor with the dessert. Meanwhile, a volunteer, using a portable electric vacuum, cleaned the space we had occupied so that the next recipient of this blessed meal could be seated. My remembrance of this Sikh generosity offered with humility fills me once again with gratitude and continues to enrich my faith in the peoples of the world. The community represents the hope of our survival found when we talk and take loving action across our differences.

Langar also exemplified the theme of the Parliament 2015, “Reclaiming the Heart of Our Humanity – Working Together for a World of Compassion, Peace, Justice and Sustainability.” In delightful harmony more than 9600 people attended the hundreds of events and exhibitions over the five day period. As I re-member the Parliament, I see people from around the world, many in faith tradition defining clothing walking in peace and companionship passed one another headed for a plenary session or one of the hundreds of workshops on endless topics. I wore my clerical collar in order to identify myself as a priest wanting to be in conversation with other attendees. Two other aspects of this Parliament captured my attention and heart: the Inaugural Women’s Assembly held from 9 to 5 before the evening opening ceremony; second, the Native American Ute presence, particularly their tending 24 hours a day each day a ceremonial fire burning in a large stainless steel cauldron at the south entrance to the Salt Palace conference center. I will describe these and other aspects in my next blogs.

Here I want to offer a bit of history. The First Parliament of World Religions was held in Chicago in 1893 during a World’s Fair type of event. This event, attended by 10,000 people over its March to May duration, introduced the leaders of Eastern and Western religions to one another, offering an opportunity to learn about one another’s faith. With smaller gatherings during the next one hundred years, the modern Parliaments began in 1993 with Chicago again hosting the second Parliament, followed by 1999 in Capetown, 2004 in Barcelona and 2009 in Australia. The plan of the Parliament Board is to work toward a gathering every two years, with the particular hope of nurturing and learning from the emerging leaders of our future. To learn more enter Parliament of World’s Religions in your browser. Also ask me questions in the comment space below.

DECLARATION FOR THE DIGNITY AND HUMAN RIGHTS OF WOMEN

This is a long post from The Parliament of World Religions which sets forth some of my reasons for my Biblical Women posts. I will be attending and blogging from The Parliament in Salt Lake City October 15-19, including reflections on the first Women’s Assembly.

Introductory Note:
The following Declaration is intended to elicit the commitment and action of the world’s religious leaders, adherents and institutions to honor and uphold the dignity and human rights of women. It is the critical role of religion as a powerful force of influence on the quality of life experienced by women and girls throughout the world and advocates the moral responsibility of religions in improving those lives. Declarations including the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the Declaration Towards a Global Ethic issued at the 1993 Parliament of the World’s Religions, the United Nation’s 1979 international treaty (and bill of rights for women) entitled Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) ratified by 189 States, the UN’s Beijing Declaration and Platform for Action, President Carter’s Call to Action, essays and statements including his presentation at the 2009 Parliament, as well as international religious doctrines and statements of religious founders and leaders, prominent political, women’s, and human rights leaders and activists were reviewed for content and language. The wording of this declaration combines precise language and paraphrasing from these sources as well as original material. A specific list of sources will be available as an addendum.
Care was taken not to use language that reflects any one religious tradition, so that leaders and adherents of all religious traditions and spiritual paths, or none, might support its objectives. This declaration does recommend actions we hope will be undertaken to alleviate the subjugation and suffering of women and girls. It is designed to be universal in scope and inspirational in tone.
The Problem
The struggle for the dignity and equal rights of women is the global human and civil rights struggle of our time. War and violence, economic disparity and impoverishment, environmental damage and its devastating consequences fall disproportionately upon women and girls who also suffer the most prevalent injustices in our world today. Violence, child marriage, slavery and forced prostitution, rape and sexual assault, domestic brutality and abuse, “honor killings” and immolation, bodily and genital mutilation, gendercide of girls and selective abortion of female fetuses, and legitimized murder of women are pandemic.
• Throughout the world, one in three women has been raped, beaten or violently assaulted.
• Seven hundred million women were children when they were married.
• More than one hundred and thirty three million girls and women have experienced some form of female genital mutilation (FGM).
• More than twenty thousand women a year are victims of “honor killings,” usually murdered by their father, uncle, or brother.
Institutions in which women are given little or no voice impose constraints on women’s basic freedoms to control their own bodies, move about freely, own property, choose to marry or obtain a divorce, retain custody of their children, receive an education, work, or have their testimony given equal weight in court. All over the world, they risk being ostracized, abused, or killed if they try to change these unjust conditions. Even where advances toward equality have been made, women continue to suffer disproportionately from poverty and environmental devastation, from violence and abuse, life-damaging discrimination in access to education and health care, the burdens of unpaid care-giving and unequal pay, and the systematic exclusion from decision-making within religious and other institutions that determine the quality of their lives.
These shameful violations of women’s dignity and human rights are based on the false premise that men and boys are superior to women and girls, an outdated view perpetuated by too many religious leaders and adherents who choose to misinterpret or use carefully selected scriptures, texts, and teachings to proclaim the inferiority of women and girls. These harmful and religiously justified beliefs permeate societies and contribute to the pervasive deprivations and abuse suffered by women and girls throughout the world.
As the Elders have advised: “The justification of discrimination against women and girls on grounds of religion or tradition, as if it were prescribed by a Higher Authority, is unacceptable.”
It is time to end these practices and views. It is time to heal the broken heart of humanity’s feminine half.
The Role of Faith in Ending the Subjugation of Women
Being treated justly and with respect should not depend on whether one is male or female. The Universal Declaration of Human Rights and the Declaration Toward a Global Ethic call for the equal rights of men and women, and the teachings of the world’s religions universally call for compassionate and equitable treatment of all—both men and women.
The principle of treating others the same way one wishes to be treated is stated, in one form or another, throughout the religions of the world. We are all interconnected and interdependent and when half the human race suffers, we all suffer. We must all be treated with justice, respect, kindness, and love.
It is impossible to imagine a God, a Divine Source, a Sacred and Ultimate Reality, that is unjust. There is no religion that despises women, for hatred and oppression cannot come from the heart of God, or Goddess, or Holy Mother/Father, nor flow from that which is Divine, the Creator, the One, the Source, the All.
It is impossible to imagine the healthy, sustainable, just, and peaceful world of our collective future without the spiritual wisdom and leadership of women.
Commitments of Conscience
Therefore, we, your grandmothers, mothers, daughters, wives, and sisters, call upon our grandfathers, fathers, husbands, sons, and brothers, and upon each other–upon all people of faith—to alleviate the unwarranted deprivation and suffering of women and girls.
We are mindful of and grateful for leaders, adherents and institutions of faith and those interfaith institutions already fighting for the dignity, well-being, equal status and human rights of women around the globe – but more good work to remains to be done.
We call upon the religions of the world to lead the way in ending violence against women and girls.
We call upon faith and interfaith organizations to work collaboratively with institutions and organizations that are working to advance the well-being, and rights of women around the globe. Furthermore, we call upon the world’s guiding institutions to partner with faith and interfaith organizations working to advance women’s well-being and rights.
We call upon all religious leaders and adherents to challenge and change harmful teachings and practices that justify discrimination and violence against women and girls.
We call upon all religious leaders and adherents to acknowledge and emphasize the positive messages of dignity and equality that the world’s faiths share.
We call upon all religious leaders and adherents to embrace their moral responsibility and collectively commit to ensuring that women are fully and equally involved in decision-making within religions and in every sphere that involves their lives.
We call upon the world’s religions to honor and uphold the dignity, well-being, and human rights of women and girls.
We commit ourselves to this collective undertaking to heal the heart of our humanity by releasing women, girls, men, and boys from the bondage of gender-based discrimination and violence. We do so with hope and with faith in our future.
© 2015 Parliament of the World’s Religions________________________________________